I have done a lot of reading on dealing with toxic people. The advice that is out there is usually based around the idea that other people can do things to you, making you the victim. That in order to stay healthy, you need to cut these toxic people out. This places you in a victimization pattern. Cutting people out also keeps you from healing your karmic entanglements.
If these toxic people weren’t hitting your triggers, you would either not notice them, or think they were ridiculous and go on with your day. The ONLY reason they are TOXIC to you, is that you have an energetic entanglement with them or this kind of situation. You will continue to attract this pattern, until you recognize the energy for what it is, take ownership of your part in it, and unwind the entanglement.
One of my triggers is judgement. When I feel judged, something inside me immediately reacts. I see red, and I respond without thinking. I’m working to get to the root of this entanglement. What I have figured out so far is I have a pattern of not feeling worthy. I’m not at the root yet. But it here’s where it gets fun, and hard.
I have quickly come to realize that I have to untangle my karmic entanglements if I want to carry on with a productive life. You can’t cut off everyone who triggers you, nor should you swallow your hurt and anger to just get along. The environment that needs to change, is your karmic entanglements… basically your head/heart.
Karmic patterns can come from your lifetime, past lives, family, or society at large. This is where akashic record readings come in to help a LOT. By tracing the entanglement back, you can see the individual patterns clearly, and then pin point how many times it’s reoccurred.
Past life energetic entanglements are karmic patterns that originated in a previous incarnation and were carried through to this one. Generally it’s a self imposed restriction due to some traumatic event. The world used to be kill or be killed, so we had to make hard choices to survive. These choices act as a stain on our karma until we recognize them and let them go. (Or get a stain stick and scrub that bitch out)
Familial patterns are basically beliefs that have been handed down over generations (money is the root of all evil, the rich are evil, women can’t make it on their own). They aren’t true, but have just always been accepted as true.
Societal karma is also how it sounds. It is beliefs that society hands you, and you accept as true.
An interesting example of familial karma is actually most obvious in my cats. Mama kitty HATES my blonde dog. Totally doesn’t mind my bigger, smellier, more obnoxious German Shepherd. But HATES my sweet unassuming, gentle blonde.
Her kittens have also hated Heidi. Bo (the shepherd) will lay down and they will snuggle in to him. Heidi walks by and they all scatter or hiss. This has actually carried on to the kittens in their new homes. They all HATE blonde dogs in their new environments, while being ok with other dogs.
See how that irrational belief has carried through? Granted, it’s VERY basic. But basic proof helps you see more complex instances.
My guess, is that my entanglement with judgment and feeling unworthy comes from my moms side of the family. My great great grandma was left by her mogul husband for another woman and was treated poorly by the small town where she lived. She was treated as if she wasn’t good enough for him, so isn’t good enough for anyone else.
This pattern carried through to my great grandmother who tolerated an alcoholic husband, and to my grandmother who tolerated cheating. Both tolerated this behavior because they did not feel worthy of better. This lack of worthiness caused them to make the choice to keep quiet, allow abuse and humiliation, because it was better to have the facade of perfection, rather than the judgement of others.
To some extent my mother perpetuated this. She constantly insisted my sister and I not leave the house without make up, without being dressed well. If we made a mistake, we were told we’d have to tell our grandparents, as if a mistake was some horrible thing.
Triggers, toxic people are a blessing because they help you become more self aware. The bigger the struggle, the bigger the step forward.
I have always known this saying to be true. I’ve also always known about karma. It feels like I knew about these fundamental truths before I even knew the words. Until recently I really couldn’t explain it to anyone if they had asked. I just would repeat “what goes around comes around”.
As the universe does, it gave me the tools I needed when I was ready to use them. It put my friends podcast on my feed “shit happens”. In this she discusses how if you are having a hard time hearing your intentions, warm up your heart. And do so by thinking of a non controversial, favorite thing. In my case…. my cat lol… he is simple and sweet and silly.
I was like cool! I get this concept totally.
Then I found the book by Mellisa Feick.
In this book she talks about how all the plains intersect.
So many people talk about levels and spirals etc etc. but in this book it was the first time I had read about toroidal fields as applied to karma.
She goes on to state that the hearts toroidal field is the strongest. It LITERALLY works as one. Blood pumps out, goes to all parts of your body and then comes back and the process starts again. Now imagine your intentions doing this. Starting in your heart, not your head. Your head adds ego. But your heart is where true, pure intentions come from. But it’s also where you hold scars your head has told you to get over.
Now imagine your feelings about relationships. What does your head say? “They are great and I am doing everything I can to get one.. only positive thoughts here!”
But your heart knows all the times you have been hurt deeply and is probably guarding your true intentions a little.
So picture this as you really think about hurts your mind/ego have shoved down deep… and picture the intention moving from your heart- out into the universe like this.
Re read that last paragraph, and look at this field again. It’s mind blowing huh?
This is the missing link that I never really got until this weekend.
This is why intentions get muddled from thought to fruition. If they are sent from your head, you think clearly send it out then wonder why what you ordered either isn’t coming, or is like those Pinterest fails you see on Facebook.
Your poor heart is being overlooked and pushed aside by your mind. But since the toroidal field STARTS at your heart center, the hearts whispers have a part in how the intention reverberates our and therefore is amplified when it comes back.
So. Listen to the whisper you hear when your sending your intention.
Mind/ego; “Relationships?! They are great and I am doing everything I can to get one.. only positive thoughts here!”
Heart: “But I have been hurt every time I’ve truly let someone get to know me, so I’m going to hang back”
This is also where my readings in the akashic records are going to benefit more! I have been able to tell people what the karmic patterns are that their soul is ready to heal. And now I can explain coherently why these patterns keep showing up! They are hidden I. Their hearts/subconscious.. and are then magnified!
Now to heal these patterns, you need to fully understand the choices you made that lead to the occurrence. Being a victim will not allow you to change the pattern. This is in no way saying you are to blame for what happened to you. This isn’t about blame, it’s about empowerment.
By taking ownership of your part in how the occurrence happened… and then FULL ownership of the choices you have made since, allows you to make new choices. By making new choices, you are able to alter the pattern.
You can not change what happened, but you can change how you let it affect you, how you are triggered now and how you will make choices in the future. You can then choose to take the lesson forward in life, allowing you to let go of the negativity surrounding what happened.
In sever traumatic cases, seeking a counselor is recommended. Doing this step is a step toward changing the pattern. You are recognizing that you need help, You are taking ownership of how you feel, and you are taking action to change the future.
All three cats In this picture are sure things will be fine. Only mama kitty (the one on the railing) was right. The two sons were fine, but remembered mama doesn’t take their shit. This is how you handle doubt.
I’ve had multiple scenarios where people have been second guessing themselves lately. While it’s ok to critically question your beliefs when challenged. One should refrain from seeking outside validation for internal knowledge.
For instance. I’ve had people ask me for my opinion even though her gut tells her the truth. They regularly seek outside opinions, even though they can obtain the info herself.
I get it. I really do. But the universe can only answer your intentions. Not your questions. Your intentions. So when you ask something out of doubt. You are going to be given more doubt.
You need to take control, and say “cut that shit out! I’m the creator of my existence! Will _____ work for me!” And go with the first answer you get.
Go with your gut. Do so repeatedly until the universe understands you mean business. You aren’t here to be messed with. YOU are in control!
Cats don’t doubt themselves, so why should you?!
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I have often said that when I die, I want to come back as my cats. They love the most pampered life. They are loved, fed, well rested and rarely held against their will… for very long.
Their biggest stressor in life is deciding whether to lay in the window, or on the heat vent. In short… they don’t stress. They just assume their needs will be met, and they are.
We need to learn from them.
We spend so much time stressing about thing that we have no control over. It’s basically like we are praying for what we don’t want when we spend so much time and energy in our mind loops.
What would happen if we spent as much time and energy getting excited about what we want coming to fruition. If we planned for the outcome we want.
Stress and worry are natural. But touch them mentally and acknowledge they are coming from an honest place. A place that is trying to keep you safe. Then carry on, knowing that life will be good and you can handle anything. Then look forward to the next amazing opportunity coming your way.
This is my glass collection. These are the pieces that fit a certain criteria. The right colors, shapes and pattern. And of all those out there, these pieces also go through a filter of 1) found in the wild (not eBay) 2) under a certain price 3) unique. This is the kind of filter soul alignment can give you for life changing decisions.
Soul alignment gives you a filter which you can use when making decisions. A basic guide as to whether something will be aligned or not. You probably think this should be obvious right?!
Due to our negative choices we make in life these “filters” get clogged up. Social norms, obligations and so forth clog the filters and obscure what our soul truly wants.
I am aligned to being conflict free… this means I would often say yes, when I should have said no. I would then get pulled in to situations where I was spinning my wheels, or being taken advantage of. That is until I found this course, was able to clear the blocks and restrictions and learned to follow my true North Star. Aka, my gut.
I can now tell immediately when something feels off, and I know these decisions won’t work for me. Now, I still want to avoid conflict, and sometimes say yes when I shouldn’t, but I know, and am not stuck wondering why I’m not attracting the life I want.
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