My car is convinced I’m starving him because he can see the bottom of his bowl. He can’t see the food around it, he only sees what he doesn’t have. This is lack mentality. I used to think it only applied to how you saw money. It came to me the other day, that my lack mentality shows up in how I address food. Kind of like my cat.
In my case tho, I restrict my calories, convinced I will gain weight if I have any “no no items”. In my head sugar of any kind goes straight to my hips. And because I have been brought up to believe that how I look is all important, I restrict myself.
I kept getting the message to let go of the lack mentality that isn’t serving me, and I kept thinking “why is this coming to me!?” My relationship with money is healthy. But food, yeah, that is anything but healthy.
I was raised by a woman who thought I only looked great when I was basically starving myself. At the age of 11 she told me I needed to make sure I wasn’t too fat. I was constantly told to suck my stomach in, and called thunder thighs. (Mind you I was a competitive gymnast my entire life).
When I was pregnant, and shortly after my c-sections, my mom would show me her post baby pics bragging about how quickly she got back in her jeans… then would tell me “you’ll get back to yourself soon”.
Once she died, I realized just how unhealthy she was. I realized I could never say the things she said to me to my kids. It was eye opening. Yet my relationship with food didn’t improve.
I was talking to a fellow calorie/carb-a-phobe the other day who said that the calorie counter I suggested to her suggested she eat WAY too many carbs. And that’s when I realized how the relationship to lack.
Food is energy, it is literally how our body fuels itself. If we restrict it, it finds ways to store “energy”. It figured out ways to keep itself alive. How can I be on the vibration of abundance and be simultaneously be obsessed about eating a normal 1500 calorie diet (I was down to 1000 calories while working out, and was perplexed as to why I was exhausted).
So long story short, if you are not seeing abundance in your life, where are you restricting yourself in an unhealthy way?! It can be friends, love, food, entertainment. I’m not saying to binge in any of these areas, but find out what is normal, and trust that it’s normal, and your perspective is skewed.